|How could anyone say this is manipulation?!|
And what if they couldn't talk? What if they couldn't say "I'm hot/hungry/afraid", or "I can't sleep and I just want to be near you?" If all they had were their cries, would it be wrong to ignore them because going to them was inconvenient, or someone was afraid it would mean they were "letting them have their way all the time"?? Of course it would be! And I'm no expert, but if a friend treated me that way, they'd be gone...out of my life. I wouldn't want a friend like that!!! I would also not want to have that person as a friend, I don't think many people would. I think that person would find themselves alone. (Perhaps crying in the dark?) That would be sad.
These children are our future. They deserve BETTER than we had. They deserve to benefit from all of our knew knowledge, to be allowed to cry when they need us, and for those cries to be answered by the loving person they have grown to trust. We don't get to go back and change the way we did things. That's a fact. But we can change the way we do things from this moment on. There's always room for improvement, always room for growth. Even if you have let your child(ren) CIO in the past, you don't have to let it keep happening. Parent with your heart, and it won't even be an option.
Where I have always stood on this:
I have had 3 children, the first two came together, and never once have I forced any of my children to CIO. When they cry, I cannot ignore them. The instinct I have to go to them is so strong that once, when the twins were babies, my husband warned my FIL to get out of my way if the twins started crying, for fear he'd lose a limb if it was in my path as I ran to them. I had no science telling me it was damaging. I only let my heart lead the way.
|Don't ignore your instincts to love, protect, hold, and soothe your baby whenever they need it.|
Canada.com: "Crying It Out May Damage Baby's Brain" (From the National Post)